Older men? Anyone dating/married to someone 10+ years older? | PriceScope Forum
Forum Member What is your opinion on dating older men? Or they nurish a relationship simply because it makes them feel better about. Apr 16, I am 25, and am used to date men slightly older than me (from 3 to 9 years). Never felt comfortable with guys of the same age or younger. I'm starting to think that maybe I should try older guys (30+) because honestly I've found that I'm . When we started dating I was 21, he was
With his first marriage he has 2 grown children. Wondering how many women in his age range would consider having a long term relationship with him?
I would not for a variety of reasons. Let's hear your thoughts. My SO's dad is From his first marriage to his college sweetheart, he has my boyfriend age 31 and his brothers ages 29 and From his second marriage to a woman ten years younger than he is, he has a daughter who is 5.
He is divorced from his second wife, and now has a girlfriend who is His current girlfriend is very admittedly NOT a kid person neither, it should be noted, is my SO's dad, despite fathering four of them - his second marriage soured when his wife, who had been of the "I don't want kids" camp during their dating years switched gears after they got married and decided she did.
GF doesn't particularly like 'em, doesn't want her own, ever it would surprise me if she ends up being a mind-changer on the issue, from what I know of her, but she's young, so who knows. If it is for sex only, it should be seen as immoral, but if it is for marriage, then there is nothing wrong with that.
My mother married my father when she was 20 and my father was 50 years old Collins Majwa Odhiambo, Kisumu, Kenya: It's all about money and security. Some think that old men have a lot of experience in relationships and once they are in it they can't be let down whatsoever.
It is hard for young ladies to trust young men since they are financially down and still have very many things to accomplish in life. Thus they resort to old men, but ironically they flirt with them secretly since they don't want to lower their dignity Emmanuel, Ukagha, Port Harcourt, Nigeria: Morally I think it's not right for young girls to date older men, because most of the young girls dating older men know that the men are married with a family.
They sometimes go into these relationships to break up the homes Steve, Woolwich, UK: There are good biological reasons for younger women to date older men and younger men to date older women. Young men reach their maximum sexual ability in their early 20s, at a time when they are frustrated by their lack of finances and willing females.
They are not usually ready to care for children at this time. Women achieve this in their late 30s and 40s at a time when they have had children and their husbands abilities are on the wane.
So there should be no problem with them hooking up. On the other hand an older man who is comfortable financially and trying to regain his youth can go out with a trophy younger lady who may be more interested in his money. There should be a caveat on those below the legal age of consent or marriage Lawrence Atieno, Nairobi, Kenya: It is not immoral for young girls to date older men.
What is the age gap - ten years, fifteen years or twenty years?
In fact such relationships are driven by maturity and understanding; at least for the ones that I have observed. The ladies enjoy these relationships as at times their older men allow them to mix go with their age mates to parties and such events That mix makes the ladies feel like flying.
Just listen to some of our FM radio stations in Kenya and you will accept the reality. Especially in Nairobi where the cost of living keeps shooting up every week.
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To lady students, the working class mostly older men are ATMs automated teller machines. In fact the older men friends are called ATM's by the lady students girlfriends. However who is supposed to take care of the ladies? And not their age mates as the ladies of today are kilometers ahead of their age mates in terms of biological growth and social maturity Joshua D.
K, Weah, Zwedru City, Liberia: It's very wrong, these young girls are children to these older men. Oloye Kehinde, Adejube, Akure, Nigeria: I can't see anything wrong with it.
If a lady decides to mary an older person than herself, it's a matter of personal choice Gush Minyoro, Entebe, Uganda: First who said it's wrong for a young women to date older men?
Is it by your imagination or what? You said dating but not getting maried which means young ladies getting married to older men is right. Anyway, it's not written anywhere that dating older men or women is wrong if you love each other.
First take note of prominent people in the world who have broken the rule if it's thereand find out why they have done that. Perhaps they have better reasons for that because nobody has condemned them so far Sena, Nani, Ayanfuri, Ghana: It is a euphemistic statement to question "Is it immoral for young girls to date older men? Some of the ladies give excuses that it is for security, but much more for the thickness of their purse. Indeed, most of these relationships are merely infatuation geared towards one single goal which is money Esther, Wodulo, Kampala, Uganda: It is not immoral to date older men because after all age is just a number and doesn't change anything Kasmiro, Dominic Omyorok, Torit, Sudan: It is not immoral for young women to date older men, for most people always use to say love is blind, but indeed the cause to this problem is poverty which is dominating most African families, so dating old men is just to gain financial assistance to support their poor families.
I say this because I've not seen any young woman dating a poor old man but they just rush to the rich ones Eve, Lilongwe, Malawi: There is nothing wrong with it. I strongly believe that it is good to be an old man's darling rather than a young man's slave.
What should a girl do if young men of their age do not propose love to them? A little difference in age is not a problem, but what we are discussing is not a matter of slight numerical difference. It is an issue of young African girls being exploited by old men who often do not even intend to marry them. The major factor at the root of this problem is the severe poverty many families face.
These perverted old men mostly show up when little girls are in severe economic needs, and their assistance is not for free. More troubling is the fact that some parents arrange these relationships that are very detrimental to their children. It is also unfortunate that the conduct is facilitated by older African men who return from the West for holidays in the arms of these children. I believe this is not only morally wrong, it should be legally condemned throughout the continent Anderson Chopi, Blantyre, Malawi: It is not immoral, but circumstances can't prevent it.
Older men? Anyone dating/married to someone 10+ years older?
Young men are usually financially broke; they occupy positions with less pay; they struggle to live better and they don't pay much attention to issues of love as they are distracted and feel shy about the financial demands that come with intimate relationships.
After toiling hard, they bounce back in their early forties as they have accumulated enough wealth, and now it is their time to reap the arrears of the lost glory, now that they have cash, a better paying job, business and are educated.
They will go for young females in order to compensate for the painful experience they went through during the laborious time, as they could not afford to hook one. Money and love and care is what drives the whole scenario Kingsley Nyambe, Lukulu, Zambia: It is not immoral for young girls to date older men but what we should ask ourselves is what is the motive behind it; is it financial gain or love?
Eva Ndiaye, Dakar, Senegal: I think most of the time there is not love between them. Young women date older men because of money and if you are with an older man you are secure.
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I have also noticed that older men are more tolerant than young men. They take care of young women more than young men do William Kokulo, Monrovia, Liberia: Young girls dating older men is not immoral If she does it willingly. But for me, I would not accept any act of dating because it is a waste of time and lacks a fruitful outcome. What is the significance of dating a woman? For an old man to date a girl of his grandchild or his daughter's age is not good but I may say it's not totally wrong.
The fact is that it's not fair play and I believe it to be wrong. I was once a victim of this. I met a man I called my dad. I was tempted by his money. He was a generous giver but each time I collected his money I felt like a thief because I don't love him but I told him I loved him. I felt I was stealing because he gives me what is meant for his wife. I always think of ways to get more from him. I also felt very bad because he is my boyfriend's boss in the office and he knows I love that guy but my guy knows nothing about him and I.
My own view of the topic is that it is wrong. It was not love but rather an exchange of interest. He wants me, I want his money, but not him. Here are some reasons why it is wrong: